The Losing Battle of Expectations

boy-447701_1280“I don’t understand what I am doing wrong?” I vented to a friend. It wasn’t the first time I had uttered the phrase. Expectations were defeating me once again. “I do this and that and blah, blah, blah.” I rambled on to my husband, “Why can’t I even get a text or a phone call?” “They must not like me anymore.” “I am no longer wanted as a friend.” I seem to take things a little too sensitive and be over dramatic.

My husband is the best at putting perspective back into place. “Yes, you did go above and beyond, and no, maybe they haven’t spoken to you in a while. Life is busy. Maybe they cannot go above and beyond as you do. Regardless don’t stop doing and being you and who you are called to be. You just cannot expect anything in return.”

Expectations. If I do get what I am wanting in return, that is an added bonus. In all honestly, I expect too much from my relationships. Including my husband (ouch).  If I go out of my way to write you a lovely note and you do not jump up and down with joy and become my inseparable best-friend, I will assume you do not like me. Yes, I am putting my heart on my sleeve here. This is me, this is who I am.

What is wrong with Expectations?


Friends, God wrote a very long love letter to me. He is with me every minute, every second. He sent his Son to die for me and save me from my sins, giving me everlasting life. This is the ultimate love and sacrifice unable to be replicated by human emotions. I cannot expect a perfect relationship from a human. Perfect love comes from God.


I will continue being me and do everything I can for my relationships knowing they are doing everything they can as well. Sometimes it just looks different, but I know in my heart, the relationship I so long for only comes from God. He is ready and willing and has already shared his love with me.

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