Learning to Trust God with Your Kids


“The Lord directs the steps of the godly.
He delights in every detail of their lives.
Though they stumble, they will never fall,
for the Lord holds them by the hand”
Psalm 37:23-24

One of the hardest things for me as a mom is realizing that while I’ll always be called mom, there comes a time in life, my children begin to pull away from me, readily taking steps in preparation spreading their wings to one day soar in this crazy world. Anticipation fills my mom heart as my full-time mom role is not so willingly exchanged for guidance counselor. Fear overcomes me as the world reveals its daunting future and I wonder, “Can I really let go and trust God with my kids?”

There are many things I’ve trusted God with but have I ever fully trusted God with my children as he does with us? God entrusted them into our care and we have co-parented with Him over the years but have I given Him the same in return? I’ve trusted Him in their sickness and broken bones only taking back authority upon restoration. I’ve prayed and turned things over to Him taking back control when prayers weren’t answered in the time allotted. It pains me to say that I haven’t fully trusted Him and the searing evidence continues in the questions I ask. Have we given them all they need to navigate life? Have we filled them full enough with God to truly live in this scary world, and have we given the love they need knowing without a doubt that we will always be here in everything? These are all “I” based questions and then I would imagine God replying, “Only I can grow in them, you cannot do that for them, don’t be afraid, trust me, I will hold their hands!”

We are entering the “guidance counselor” phase of parenting. The old way of doing things passed away, no longer a working part of the blue prints given for them. We must change as they change and entrust their path back to the one who assigned us to care for them. I’m learning to trust God with my kids, no longer piloting their lives but co-piloting with the One who has their path and life marked out for them. Their steps established by the Lord, not mine, and He delights in the details of their lives. We see them take steps putting into practice what’s sown into their hearts, experiencing the love and discipline of God making their relationship with Him their own. When they fail, stumble, lose their way and even endure their first heartbreak, we trust God will use it all for his glory. When the pointing and gnashing of teeth come their way they will not fall because the Lord is the One who holds them by their hands. When the devil tries to steal or destroy, we trust they will make God their fortress and seek shelter in Him who loves them beyond measure. What we continue sowing in tears during this phase of parenthood, He will harvest with shouts of joy (Psalm 126:5-6.) “And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.” Romans 8:28

The year’s continue winding down and with each revolution comes the realization time is short and they are one step closer being on their own. While this causes struggle within me, a sweet friend reminded me of Hannah’s story in the Bible. Hannah prayed and made a vow to the Lord in 1 Samuel 1:11 saying, “…..O Lord of Heaven’s Armies, if you will look upon my sorrow and answer my prayer and give me a son, then I will give him back to you. He will be yours for his entire lifetime, and as a sign that he has been dedicated to the Lord, his hair will never be cut.” (Emphasis mine)

When her baby, Samuel, was weaned she went back to the temple and said to Eli in verses 26-28, “…..I am the very woman who stood here several years ago praying to the Lord. I asked the Lord to give me this boy, and he has granted my request. Now I am giving him to the Lord, and he will belong to the Lord his whole life.” (Emphasis mine)

As parents, we co-pilot with God, weaning our children and entrusting them back to the ever capable hands of their author and creator. The transition may experience turbulence and various ups and downs as the seeds sown in infancy watered and allowed growth outside our will and into the all knowing will of God. The Lord will reap the harvest of obedience produced from us bringing joy as they fly together with Him. As this changeover begins, I take heart in knowing, “……that God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns.”

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