How to Deal with a Screaming Toddler


I would like to just start this post off by saying that this title describes my everyday life with a 3 year old and (almost) 2 year old.  However, this does not mean that I have all of the answers! I thought we could just start off with a little humor:

Who can relate?! Oh good, so happy to know I am not alone!

A few things I have found helpful is to think of how I feel when I want to be over-dramatic about a situation.  How would I want someone to respond to me? It normally does not help the chaos if I try to match them in volume.  What has helped in my house is to be calm and just let them know I am here and not going anywhere.

If the screaming/tantrum goes on and on and on then I break out the serious mommy voice to shut it down. Normally, just letting them know it is okay to be upset (even if I feel what they are upset about is ridiculous or I have no idea why they are upset) and redirecting situations are resolved.

If things continue to escalate in chaos, then here come the consequences.  For instance, if you do not calm down, then you get (insert punishment).  Please make sure to follow through.  Even when in a store while the store attendants stare at you.  <– That situation may have happened just last week.  The great news is we all survived the situation and she was happy by the time we pulled out of the parking lot.

I also try to remember that they will not scream forever.  It may feel like forever, but they have to go to bed at some point.  There is hope for the end of the day and a fresh start that comes with a new day.

Proverbs 1:8-9 NIV, “Listen, my son, to your father’s instruction and do not forsake your mother’s teaching.  They are a garland to grace your head and a chain to adorn your neck.”

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