Freedom From Motherhood


When you think about freedom, what comes to mind?

Maybe this great country that so many of us are blessed to live in, the United States of America?

Or possibly the freedom that comes through Christ, of Jesus dying on the cross to take away our sins?

Freedom that comes from not having to worry about doing this or that right, because, after all, Jesus paid the price for it all.

But have you thought about freedom in relation to being a mom…freedom from motherhood?

I think for so many of us, what comes to mind is a feeling of lack…especially if you have young children.

When kids are small, they need you. All. The. Time.

It’s, “Mommy, I need another drink of water!”
“Mommy, I’m hungry!”
“Mommy, I pooped!” Which as you moms know, translates to: “Wipe my butt!”

And let’s face it…WE LOVE IT!

We love our children, and we love to be needed. We wouldn’t trade it for the world. But sometimes, if you close your eyes and think really hard, you can remember.


To be able to do what you want, when you want, with who you want. Freedom to stay up late because you didn’t have to wake up every two hours and feed a crying baby, or get up early to get kids off to school. Freedom to go out on a date with your husband, or with friends, at the drop of a hat, without having to orchestrate five million details that are absolutely necessary if everyone is to end up alive at the end of the night. Freedom to turn the music up loud…because no one is napping.

Now before you go all judgmental on me, let me say that in case you didn’t get it before, I LOVE being a mom and I wouldn’t trade it for the world!

I’m not talking about being unappreciative of our blessings or unsatisfied with our lives, and changing anything about motherhood. But that it is okay to want…no, to need…some freedom.

I know when my kids were small, I was a stay at home mom. (Truth be told, even though I work from home, I do work outside the home a few hours a week, but I still consider myself primarily a stay at home mom.) But as much as I loved every minute of being with my children and I was grateful beyond measure that I got to stay home with them, I still yearned for a little ‘me time’ once in awhile.

And you know what? There’s nothing wrong with that.

Why do we judge each other and put down the mom who wants to take a little time away from her house, from her life, from her kids? To me, I always came back home happier and more refreshed once I had a little time away, (albeit this didn’t happen much until my kids were older.)

Why can’t we be more supportive of each other instead of criticizing one another? (And when did motherhood become more about competition than camaraderie?)

We need to have the freedom…To be okay with freedom! It’s not only possible, but beneficial, to have freedom from motherhood.

To take time away when we need to so we can return refreshed, rejuvenated, and ready to take on the role that we have been blessed with, this magnificent ride called motherhood.

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