Mercy And Marriage

get-attachment (33)I have been married for over ten years. I’ve learned a lot about my husband in those years. I am no expert on the topic of marriage but I have grown in my faith since getting married. God has blessed me with a husband who is caring, loving, faithful, trustworthy, and VERY merciful. Being a merciful spouse takes great strength and a lot of prayer. Humans naturally want to hold grudges and keep a record of wrongs. But, as Christians we are to be forgivers most of all.

There are many way to extend mercy to your spouse. God shows mercy toward us by forgiving our sins and remembering them no more (Hebrews 8:12). His mercy is freely given to us because He loves us (Ephesians 2:4).  His mercy is there for us always (Psalm 86:5). No matter how far we may fall, God is there to pick us up, dust us off, and hold us close. When Jesus went to the cross, He did it willingly to show His love and mercy toward us. We are called to be merciful to others just as God is merciful to us (Luke 6:36).

What mercy looks like in marriage: 

  1. When things get heated in a disagreement, don’t shout. Lower your voice or leave the room to cool down before continuing the discussion. When we shout at each other it escalates the situation and punishes both parties.
  2. When you say you are sorry about something and forgiveness has been extended, don’t keep bringing it up anymore. My husband always says “I thought we were over that.”. And, he’s right…I forgave him so I can’t bring it up anymore. Don’t hold grudges with the person you live with (it will be very uncomfortable). I can’t keep dragging him through the mud over something I forgave him for.
  3. Uphold his reputation to others. If he has bad habits or you got into an argument, don’t announce it to the world. Don’t tell you BFF, your sister, and especially not your mother (you don’t want your mother-in-law knowing all of your dirty habits).
  4. Forgive your husband. We all make mistakes and say things we don’t mean in the heat of a disagreement. Show mercy to the person you chose to spend the rest of your life with. Forgive him…wholeheartedly. Jesus died so we could be forgiven, the absolute least we can do is forgive our spouse.
  5. Pray for your marriage and specifically for your husband. Ask God to show you ways you can extend mercy in your marriage. God will be your strength and guide. He know how to show mercy (He does it every single minute of every single day). Why not as the Creator of Everything to give you wisdom in this area. Pray that God will protect your husband, go before your husband, lead your husband. It will be worth it.

I really hope that these tips will help you to show mercy in your marriage. Mercy can release you from the bondage of unforgiveness in your heart. Set yourself free so that your marriage can be a blessing to both of you.

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